Thursday, April 17, 2014

Leaving Those Worries Behind

Discovered a harp store during a walk.  I had no clue these even existed!

As you might remember from my last post, I needed to take a little break from things.
And,  I did.
I realized that we had been doing the same things and living the same type of life that we did back home.
We work and worry frantically about the future.
Do we need more education?
Where will we be living next year?
Should I change my career?
Will I ever teach in a traditional classroom again?
What if this happens?
What if that happens?
Worry, worry, worry.
During a long night of conversation and deep questions, we decided to break up with stress. Stop doing the things that make us unhappy.
So, we went for a walk.

A glimpse of the Fourviere above a cafe and the old Stock Exchange
in Vieux Lyon.
Too much energy was going to work and worry.  And not enough to living.
Afterall, we didn't cross an ocean to continue the same type of life somewhere else.
We were not engaged and interacting with where we were.
Look at where we are?!
We are in France now!
So let's live the way they do.
In the present with Joie de Vivre!
Life and the art of enjoying it have taken the spot as top priority in our life.
I let go of my job and the schedule that went with it.  We both put down our cell phones at night during dinner and bedtime.  A limit has been put to the amount of time we can spend talking about finding a job or anxieties about the future.  We block out negative people and their discouraging remarks. Resuming our love of long walks, reading and music has helped us.
A few glasses of wine in the setting sun with friends are also a part of this plan.
Life happens outside of work.  And we don't want to waste any of it.

A kind of blurry but pretty picture during our walk.

Can I tell you something?  So far our new approach has helped us.

Have you ever felt out of balance in your life?
Many people have.
What have you let go of in order to live a better life?
I would love to hear from you.

Friday, April 11, 2014

Do you have the Expat Flu, too?

I have come down with a case of what I am calling The Expat Flu (trademark pending).
Symptoms are as follows:
Headache          Heart Palpitations
Nausea              Anxiety
Fatigue               Eating Too Much/ Too Little (too much in my case)
Laughing at  Foolish Old Expectations
Struggling to Form a New Language
Unable to answer the question, "So, are you guys gonna move back?" or "What do you wanna do with your life here?"

I feel as if I have the Expat Flu and I need to care of myself.
Rest, make some soup, watch old episodes of Frasier and Call The Midwife.  Pamper myself.
I would be happy staying indoors and nursing myself back to health.  My couch is my infirmary and I will be my own nurse.
I need to hear my girlfriends voices and talk about life and people we are not too fond of.
I need to sit in the sun by the river and drink a glass of wine, laugh and plan getaways.
That is exactly what I need.
I want an endless cup of my favorite tea (Tazo Sweet Orange in case someone wants to send it to me).
I want my soft down comforter to hug me as I take a nap and dream.
How about a good book?  Let's throw that in there too (any suggestions?).
An abundance of energy is required to resettle into a new country and culture.  It is difficult on every aspect of your life.
And mes amis, I am exhausted.
So I think it is time for me to take a little step back.
Take a few deep yoga breaths and refocus.

If you have experienced anything similar, please leave a comment below.
I would love to hear from you.